Most of my original music I create is about looking back. It’s about regrets, memories, chance, and serendipity. The music tends to be dark, in order to reflect on some tough moments in my life.
But in all of these ups and downs – which I’m sure everybody goes through – I am always amazed at the people I meet, and where things lead me. I always look back and see how others around me have grown, and am amazed in what they’ve done.
Three people come to mind: I felt this way about Ben Parr, Mike Lewis, and Whitney Hess when I first met them.
I first met my good friend Ben Parr while I was on the UStream Partner Program – back when it first started. My friend who was at Ustream, Matt Schlicht, mentioned I should stay with Ben for the Blogworld Expo. After the expo, Ben always stayed in touch with me. He called me every couple weeks to see how I was, or to ask about my Music Show, or to talk about books, traveling, Chicago, the fast moving tech world, or I’d call him to see how he’s doing. Fast forward 18 months, and now Ben is the Co-Editor of Mashable, an Entrepreneur, and a Sci-Fi author. He continues to stay connected with everyone he meets, and is interested in what everyone has to say.
Mike Lewis never treated me like the little guy, but I was. Having a growing music show online, I was still new to the ‘internet’ space, and the people around it. Mike was the founder and organizer of the popular NYC Diggnation group. He invited me along with his group, and it was there I met Meghan Asha, Tim Spatz, Jim Louderback, Sarah Austin, Steph Agresta and more. After connecting with Sarah Austin, I then was a guest on her Pop 17 show, which snowballed into meeting a bunch of other awesome people, and created my group of friends here in NYC. Mike now spearheads Suite Arrival, a company he started that successfully connects travelers and their item to and from destinations.
It’s rare to find a worker as passionate and well rounded as Whitney Hess. I can remember having lunch with her at Tic Toc Diner talking about our fears and projections for starting new adventures. Derek Sivers told me “If it scares you, do it“. And that’s what Whitney is doing. Starting out, she was scared about her next job, looking to make things work, and taking the plunge. But she succeeded. She wasn’t happy, and now 2 years later she’s one of the top User Experience designers in the space, and is happier, more successful, and more confident than ever.
When you make these connections over the years you never know what they will turn into. Friendships, relationships, career advice, someone to lean on, business partners, surfing buddies, band members, etc.
After meeting someone that blows me away, I always turn to a friend and say “Just met someone awesome, and there’s something about them. Really can’t wait to see what they do.” Some people have that IT factor. Learn to pay attention, and connect with people who think like you, and who motivate you. Life is about taking the leap, and jumping in wholeheartedly.
The view ahead of you is beautiful. But remember that when looking forward at where you’re headed, take the time to also look back and reminisce at the beautiful view behind you.